His Needs/Her Needs

This week let's all concentrate on our spouses need for admiration. Men especially have this need, but wives really appreciate being admired too.

Even if you feel your spouse is not especially admirable at this time, treat him or her as if they were. Begin treating and serving your spouse like a king or queen, just like a VIP.

Verbally - Compliment - exchange complaints for compliments. (Give it a GOOD try at least! :) )
Compliments are like magnets. It can draw you closer to one another.

Intellectually - Ask your spouse for help or advice in areas that he/she is knowledgeable or has much wisdom.

Physically - What could you do that would be a physical help to your spouse? Does he/she need help with their laundry, dishes, etc. Would he/she like you to put your "stuff" away? (make-up off the counter, dishes in the dishwasher)

Showing admiration goes a long way in showing your spouse how much you love them. It puts needed deposits in their LOVE BANK!

Love Bank, Moses, Worship

We have so much fun in Sunday School. We are currently seeking God and learning how to meet each others needs within the marriage relationship.

Caroline helped demonstrate the concept of the "love bank". We use chocolate kisses (in the blue basket) and fill the bank (vase) with acts of love. Each day it is important to make deposits into our mate's love bank.

Some examples, hug and kiss as you come and go, compliment each other, help with the dishes, open the car door for your wife (be a gentleman), speak the love languages.

Most important, spend time with God and allow Him to fill your heart with His love. The love you receieve from Him will overflow into your day and it will bless your mate and others.

We had a surprise visit from Moses this past Sunday. He encouraged us to honor God and to honor our husband/wife.

What a blessing to worship together with friends. God is so good to all of us. Praise his name today.

His Needs Her Needs

This morning in Sunday School, we started our lessons from the book, His Needs Her Needs, by Willard F. Harley, Jr. Kynn and I highly recommend that each of you buy this book for your home library. (The public library has this book if you want to check it out for a few weeks.) These lessons are so much fun and we will learn how to affair-proof our marriages and keep the love sizzling by meeting each others needs.


"Do you know your own marital needs? Do you know the marital needs of your spouse?


The needs of men and women are similar, however their priorities are vastly different. Are you able to identify which of the following needs are his and which are hers? Out of the ten marital needs listed below, which are most important to you? In your opinion, which five are most important to your spouse?"


NEEDS
Admiration
Affection
An Attractive Spouse
Conversation
Domestic Support
Family Commitment
Financial Support
Honesty and Openness
Recreational Companionship
Sexual Fulfillment


"We will sort through these needs and discover how identifying and meeting your most important needs will deepen your love and desire for each other. We'll learn how to become irresistible to your spouse."

If you have read this book in the past, we encourage you to pull the book off the shelf and review the above needs. Practice meeting your spouces needs. You'll be glad you did. :)