Fighting Fair in Marriage

Yesterday we discussed rules for Fighting Fair in Marriage. We had great discussion and a fun time laughing together. All of us, at one time or another, deal with conflict. How awesome that we have a God who helps us and encourages us in all areas of our marriage. Listed below are a few rules to practice. (Next week we will look at dealing with anger. How about askingGod if you have an angry heart. If you do, he specializes in revealing your anger, forgiving, and setting you free to experience his love and peace. He is good!)

RULES FOR FIGHTING FAIR IN MARRIAGE

1. Face each other.
2. Keep the fight to one issue at a time.
3. Have respect for the other person.
4. Remain focused on the present.
5. Stay focused on understanding the other person first and being understood second.
6. Focus on problem not the person.
7. Avoid distractions.
8. Keep it clean and tactful. (No name calling)
9. Take a time out if required.
10. You can not refuse to talk about a problem.
11. Make an appointment for discussion. (Do this if the other person is very tired, hungry, etc. Timing is very important sometimes.)
12. Don't interrupt.
13. Remember that your reality is not the only reality.

***Remember that you married him/her because you loved him/her. Some times you need to get back to the basics.

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